Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

I watched this movie last night: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. A different work by Jim Carrey and Kate Winslet.


A physiological journey into human emotions. The movie was about a couple who went through the sour time of their relationship that its pain is far beyond their capacity. So, they each decided to erase each other from their memories by a special mind processing technique. But through the process of loss, they discovered what they had to begin with.

I wish, there was such possibilities in reality that could erase our memories of the one who gave the most hurt and joy to us. I wish one day we could go to the doctor and say:" Please relieve me from all the signs and memories from this person" and the day after, we would not even recognize that person in the street. He/She becomes like a total stranger. This way, none of us would get affected by the fact that there is an end to everything. I bet, by doing this, We then would be much happier people who can carry on life without hate and anger.

But in reality, we have to go a time period of attempts and attempts of forgetting people. Some make this easier for themselves by hating people, blaming them, ignoring them. They change everything, work place, friends, even the city or country to be able to forget. However, stronger people stay. They know that escaping is the easiest solution but not the best. I belong to the second group. I do not erase people. I try to change my judgement towards them but I cannot treat the ones who have had a role in my life like a total stranger. I have this character from my parents. I have grown up in a loving environment that the first principle was all people have good things and bad. We should respect them for their good.

Sadly, my beliefs do not match the reality. In real life, we have to throw a stone back to the person who starts this immature and childish game. This is against my ideas but I have to follow it to be justified in the adult definition!

That is why I wish, I could go to the doctor tomorrow and say: Please erase my memory from this person. I want to have a normal life without hate, anger, sadness. I want to have it all now as life is short and it does not worth to spend time and time to forget someone.

The most moving scene in that movie was the moment that the last memory was erasing and the couple were begging to have the good last one. He said: "Do not leave me. Stay". She said back: " I cannot...I have to go. but come back and say a proper good bye to me" ...

Yes. A proper good bye is the last thing that each of us deserve to hear for the sake of time being together. But selfishness, ego, wrong judgement and even an attempt to erase everything ruins that moment...and we all know that the emptiness inside will never be erased or forgotten.